not to quote the bible or anything, but love is patient, love is kind...

today i'm going to write about something that i've been dwelling on since the last time i posted. there are a few people that i am definitely going to offend with this one, but you know what? oh fucking well. if you don't like what i have to say, don't read it. yaherd?

something that really, really irks me about couples is how dependent they get on each other. i mean, i'm pretty dependent in a relationship... but never to the point that i would blow off my entire life and great opportunities to be with that person. i mean, yeah, i've done that in the past, because i was a really stupid teenager. but i've grown and i've learned.

let me try to make this a little more clear by using an example. a couple that i know are both heavily into theater. i overheard a conversation between the two of them and a third person that really just made me shake my head. he mentioned how he almost went to broadway. had an agent and everything. and his girlfriend added, "he decided to stay and be in love with me instead."

really? i mean, it's cute and all. but really? you're going to let your significant other hold you back from taking a great opportunity? that's just ridiculous. it doesn't matter how much you love someone. you should absolutely never let them hold you back from anything. if they really love you, they won't hold you back. in fact, if they really, really loved you, they would encourage you to follow your dream.

maybe i'm just a heartless bitch. maybe i just don't understand. but i mean, if andrew decided he wanted to travel across the country on a whim because he wanted to take a picture of himself in front of every national monument, even if he wanted to travel across the world to do it, even if it wasn't his life dream, even if it was just something he wanted to do for the hell of it, i'd fully support him in that decision. hell, if i could, i'd go with him. it would be entirely unfair of me to say, "no, you can't do that because you have to stay here in east bumblefuck new jersey and be in love with me." fuck that.

you can be in love with each other anywhere, doing anything. love has no barriers. love should never hold you back. love is positive, not negative. it is encouraging, not withholding. all you folks that think you can't do something you really love because the person you love doesn't want you to do it, you're in love with the wrong person.

that is all.

cleanup on aisle three

first off, please allow me to apologize profusely for being a slacker on here. my personal life has been surprisingly busy lately (read: i've been chasing around 20 kids every day for the past two weeks for two dollars an hour). i've also been having a bit of writer's block. but now i have a topic, and you'll probably all hate me for it because i'm a cold-hearted bitch. but i need to get this out.

here's something i may never understand. trauma. people getting so upset about something that it literally scars them for life. people who can't move on. people freaking out if you try to joke about something because something bad happened 20 years ago that they just can't get over. i never understood that. i mean, really? you can't get over it? i don't get it.

the most prominent type of trauma seems to be sexual trauma, since sex is everyone's favorite. say when you were younger, you were forced to do things you didn't want to do, or didn't understand, etc. so... twenty, thirty years later, and you still can't have sex without freaking out or getting drunk first? you're so uptight that you let that bother you for the rest of your life? why? that part of your life is over, wayyyy wayyyy over. it happened, you can't change it. you move on.

for example. my mother. my mother has issues surrounding sex. i don't know the exact situation. but if i ever try to talk to her about sex, she freaks out. she's my mother, i should be able to talk to her about these types of things. she should feel comfortable educating me. (in all honesty, she's the one who needs to be educated, but that's for another time.) but she assumes that because she has issues, i must have them too. well, i fucking don't. sorry to inform you.

now, let's move on to physical issues. injuries and the like. so you fell out of a tree and broke your leg. does that mean you're never going to climb a tree again? it shouldn't. i got hit by a car three years ago. it doesn't mean i'm afraid to cross the street.

i hate to sound like a heartless asshole here, but this is just something i absolutely don't understand. i really can't perceive the idea of not being able to move on. i mean, really. shit happens. you can't change the past. put it behind you and trudge forward. don't let your past experiences hold you back from new ones. just because something was bad once doesn't mean it will be again. you just gotta keep moving. water under the bridge.

i hope you guys don't hate me for this. have a good evening.